Mistake #3

GOING IT ALONE

Helen Keller
“Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much”.

Entrepreneurs are usually “do-it-your-selfers”!

The truth of the matter though is that if you want to be successful in your business it is never accomplished alone. Most successful people are surrounded by a team of people who serve, love and support them.

There are numerous tasks that must be done that you may not enjoy or even hate doing, and doing them yourself prevents you from doing what you are passionate about. It drains your energy and eventually causes procrastination or overwhelm.

The technical challenges of operating a business can be daunting to say the least. Just because you are an expert in your field, doesn’t mean that you have to learn and do all those other tasks that you are not an expert at.

Often entrepreneurs on a subconscious level have the belief that their business success has to be earned solely on their own merit. This causes them to isolate themselves from the many talented people who could help them in the very area that they are struggling with in their business.

Some of the things that they may tell themselves are that no one else can do it like they can or they can’t afford to get help. There are many ways one can get around these issues. Outsource those things that you don’t like doing are using commission based help or trades for programs.

The good news is that there are other people who love to do the things that you dislike doing. Find those people and bring them aboard your team.

If you find yourself starting a new project, or procrastinating ask yourself the question:”Am I trying to do it alone?” If you are trying to do it alone, then finding a capable team to help and support you is the solution to making your dream a reality.

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One of the ways on How To Create A Breakthrough In Your Life or business is to become aware of the negative self talk or stories that are not serving you. When you become aware of what they are telling you then you are in a position of choice to change them.

The negative self talk or stories are just thoughts that you have from your past which create in you feelings of panic, worry, fear or other emotions that do not make you feel good. These thoughts and feelings create an energy and like a transmitter, are projecting a frequency and attracting other like or similar frequencies and are moving you into a downward spiral.

Your thoughts are supposed to support and serve you so that you are can create what you want. Take the example that you dread connecting with prospective clients, and then guess what, your prospective clients are picking up on it on a subconscious level, and you will have a mismatch.

Usually the negative self talk that takes place in your mind can go on for a long time before you become aware that they are not serving you. What happens is that they will evoke an emotion or sensation which you can feel in your body - tightness in your throat or chest, a knot in your belly, tension in your neck or shoulders or feelings of anger, or overwhelm.

This will alert you of what is going on in your thought life by the way it makes you feel -good or not so good.

So eliminating negative self talk becomes vital if you are going to create a breakthrough in your life. Here is how to do an assessment on where you are right now. Ask yourself what are those feeling stirring up within me in this moment that are not serving or not making me feel good? Those feelings will reveal the core beliefs that are triggering the emotions.

Unless this old energy is identified and released it will be activated over and over again and you will keep on experiencing the old energy of not having enough, or being enough, feeling inadequate, or whatever core beliefs that get triggered.

What happens most of the time is that we try to change the outside circumstances without first changing the internal environment. We have reversed the order and have put the cart before the horse. Remember that it is your inner design that creates your outer design and not the other way around.

Once you have connected with what you are feeling and have identified the core beliefs and released them, the next step is then to write a new story or script. You are the author, and director of your story. What would you like your new story to say?

When you make a conscious choice to align with this new story about yourself and what you want to create, you will start to think, feel, believe and embody the magnificent and awesome being that you truly are.

This change does not come overnight and like everything else that you do in your life it takes awareness, commitment and practice. My recommendation is that you find a life coach who will help you expedite the shifts to occur.

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Here is a video that depicts how the struggles we face in our lives are the stepping stones that help us to move forward if we allow them to do so.

Would you like to know how to create a breakthrough in your life? Do you feel discouraged, stuck, frustrated, disappointed or angry at what you are facing and don’t know how to shift it? The first thing to realize is that there is an internal block or conflict taking place between your desire –what you want- and your belief system, your conditioning.

Suppose your desire is to find a better job. Your mind will come up with reasons why you can’t have that better job. Your desire is to move into a different direction, and your fear- your belief system- is telling you why you aren’t able to do this so this causes a conflict in you.

Notice that this is not happening just on an intellectual level. These thoughts and beliefs are creating a feeling. You are feeling fear on one hand and desire on the other hand. It’s like you are on a teeter totter – You want this but you believe you can’t have it.

Take a second now and rate your desire for what it is that you want to manifest on a scale from 0-10, 10 being the strongest, and 0 being the weakest. Connect not intellectually but to how you are feeling.

Second, examine your belief. What are the feelings that are surfacing? You don’t deserve it, not good enough, it will take a long time or show up easily, or if what you have asked for will be good or even better? Remember to connect to your feeling.

Let’s pretend that your desire is at 10, and your belief is at a 4.

For manifestation to occur there has to be a match between what you want and the belief that you can have it or this will prevent you from attracting what you want. When there is a discrepancy between the energy of your desire and the energy of your belief (or conditioning) you cannot attract what it is that you want into your life.

When your desire is at a 10 and your belief is at a 10 you come into vibrational resonance and it will show up for you.

Even though you may now understand this concept of resonance, it hasn’t resolved the issue that you feel discouraged, stuck, frustrated, disappointed or angry. That energy that you are experiencing needs to be dissipated or that vibration will continue to be sent out into the field.

Even if you suppress it, vent it (gives short term relief) or cope with it using different escape options, like watching TV, going to a movie, having a drink, smoking, it doesn’t go away….it’s still there. It just goes underground, taking its toll on you even though you are not aware of it.

So if you want to know how to  create a breakthrough in your life I would highly recommend learning and using a release technique so that you can change your not feeling good state to a feeling good state. You want to create from a place of joy, and excitement.

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Key 3 is using a goal setting tool to find out what steps or what inspired actions you want to take in the process of manifesting what it is that you want to create easily.

In the tradition way we look at setting goals by what we want to achieve in life and then set goals, targets or things that you need to, ought to, and must do to get there. This robs us of our energy and vitality because we come from the energy of pushing or forcing.

This goal setting tool comes from the perspective of “what do you want to do in order to get there” instead of just looking at the end result to get to what you have to do to achieve your goal. You would come from a place of “What is it that you want first,” and connect to the longing of what is in your heart.

1.    Then instead of looking at “how do you need to get there?” and thinking of the steps you have, ought to, or must do to get there, use this goal setting tool and ask yourself “What are the steps that I want to take in order to get there?”

2.    As you sit with the longing in your heart, the inspired actions will bubble up within you.

3.    Then wait for the inspired action to come to you. Sit with this energy of unfolding. Then seize the moment when you are inspired to act. Follow the steps that you feel that are in alignment with your joy.

4.    Give thanks and appreciation not just by using the words to express your thanks but by experiencing the feeling of gratitude.

5.    Trust in the process by feeling and acting as though it has already taken place. Consider it done.
You must remember that you will create more energy if your actions are in alignment with y our longing. If you are taking actions because you hate what you are doing, or doing things out of obligation, ought to, must do, then there is no juice, no fuel to carry you through to your destination. Eventually things will come to a halt. Think of a car that has no fuel in it. It just won’t go anywhere. The fuel is the excitement, the joy, and the aliveness.

Joy has a very high vibration. Dr David Hawkins in his book power versus force has placed the energy level of joy at 540 from a scale of 0- 1000 from the millions of calibrations that he has done over many decades on vibrational frequencies on emotions.

Perhaps this will give you a clearer understanding of why it is that manifestation has everything to do with frequency and resonance. To change any outside circumstance you are invited to change your frequency and the quickest way to change your frequency is to change the way you feel about it.

So what is it that you really want ? Stay with that longing and then take the inspired steps and get it.

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The second key in the 3 keys on manifesting what you want to create easily process is to find out what it is that you want to create and connect to that juice or longing that excites you.

Most people are using the law of attraction to attract what they want from a place of need or lack, from a feeling of not having, from what they don’t like that is facing them in the moment or from desperation.

You might have this question coming up. Doesn’t wanting something indicate lack? The word want represents two energies. It depends on the energy that we give to the word want. It could come from the feeling of need, must have, got to have, clinging, if I don’t have this I am incomplete type energy.

Or it could come from the energy of the heart, your longing, desire, wanting, causing  your heart to be open, to be  joyful, and excited.

This is what I am talking about when I use the term want or longing. This wanting, longing or desire which is coming from a state of what feels good to you already, from a place of excitement and joy. This is something that most of us have a challenge with, connecting to our longing.

Contrary to what we may have learned about from various other sources the law of attraction responds to frequency. When you are connecting just on an intellectual level it’s just an idea or a thought, and because there is no passion, excitement or longing it won’t get off the ground.

What changes frequency more quickly than anything else is the ability to connect to the emotion of what you want and to your longing, then life will rearrange itself around your longing.

Usually when you ask  the question what is it that I am longing for, how and why are the two questions that your mind (ego) will throw back at you. It has to know how it is going to happen. It will stop you dead in your tracks if you give it any consideration especially at the initial stage of wanting to get clear about what it is that you want.

Your mind will demand to know how it going to happen. It wants to know all the details, which will stop the process of longing because the mind needs to be satisfied with knowing how it’s going to work out first.

This is why people give up on their dreams because they focus on the how rather than the what. Just focus on the question what do you want and sit with the energy of longing without thinking that you have to do something to make it happen, or needing to take an action.

Your mind will shut down as soon as it feels you have to take some action because that’s scary for it right now. That feels like too much responsibility, it’s too big. It doesn’t feel safe, so it closes down the longing.

So use the question that the heart asks to find out what you really want and connect to that longing, before you get to step 3.

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The First Key is Get Plugged in to Your Power Source. When you connect to the heart centered part of you through your emotions, that is what energizes you to manifest what you want to create easily in your life. Your emotions let you know if you are connecting from the heart or the head. If you are disconnected to your feelings and find it a challenge to connect to your emotions you will end up creating a hum drum lifeless and a disconnected type of experience in life. It will be hard to manifest anything consciously.

Therefore it is important to be able to connect deeply to your emotions, because emotion is the energy or the fuel that is used to shift your vibration or frequency. It takes the power of your emotions to change things. Nothing changes without emotion.

Before you go on a journey you need to know where you are before you can get to your destination. In the same way before you can manifest what you want  in your life you must know what you are feeling at this present moment about what is coming up for you in relation to what you want to manifest.

This will give you the clues to what it is that you don’t want and what you don’t feel so good about in your life right at this moment, so that you now can access the emotions that will make you feel good which will  shift  your vibrational frequency a little higher.

That’s the reason why it  isn’t enough just to know intellectually what you don’t want or what you want in life, because it takes a heart connection to manifest what you want to create easily, so get plugged in to your power source through your emotions.

Ask yourself what am I feeling right now about this area of concern, whether it be in your finances, in your relationships, your career, your health or anything else. Then notice what comes up emotionally for you. Are you feeling stuck, anxious, fearful, disappointed, and angry or are there emotions that arise within you feel that life is pretty good right now?

Remember that your emotions give you clues; they are what tell you what is going on inside of you. They are your internal guidance system, and play a big part in your life. They are here for a purpose, so that you can experience a contrast. The more you are aware of your emotions and the information that they give you the easier it is to shift the vibration from what you don’t want to what you want.

Although you may think that the starting point of your journey is not important or exciting you are way ahead of the game because you now know exactly what you don’t want and can get to the next phase of your journey to find out what you want to create easily.

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An important piece of information that we need to have on manifesting what you want to create easily is in the area of giving your power away. Not much attention or focus has been given to this area of teaching. Perhaps you have heard the phrase but what does it really mean? Who and what have you given your power away to? Why is it important to be aware of this?

Humanity as a whole has emotionally and energetically been plugged in to what our culture, family, and society have programmed us around what we should do, ought to do, have to do in life. This takes all the fun, excitement and juice out of life.

Imagine a beach ball that is inflated with air which has a pin size hole in it. No matter how much air there is in it right now it won’t be long before the ball will lose all the air in it. Likewise it doesn’t matter much if you have a great vision, a goal, or a great idea, there will be no energy to create easily those things that matter to you if you are plugged in and connected energetically to vibrations and frequencies that do not serve you.

Therefore it is important to become aware of what sources you are plugged in to that are draining you from manifesting what you want to create easily.  What is keeping you in fear, closed and disconnected?

Get Plugged In To Your Power Source.
Getting plugged in to your power source, to that passionate, vital, and heart centered part of you through your emotions is what energises you to manifest what you want easily in your life. It is your emotions that let you know if you are connecting from the heart or the head. If you are disconnected to your feelings or you find it difficult to connect to your emotions you will end up creating a very dull, lifeless and disconnected type of experience in life. It will be hard to manifest anything consciously. Therefore it is important to be able to connect deeply to your emotions.

In order to be good at what you want to create easily it is important to first connect emotionally to what is going in your life so that you can use that fuel to change.  What is your current life situation? Do you love your job? Do you have a relationship? What kind of financial assets do you have? Are you in the red or in the black? Are you living your purpose or your dream?

Know What You Want
Do you know what you want? What is it that excites and makes your juices flow? First connect to that longing in your heart. This emotion of longing is the fuel by which you will be able to go on manifesting what you want to create easily and to change the vibration that is draining your life force.

Setting Goals And Inspired Action From Your Heart
The final goal in this process of manifesting what you want to create easily is to look at setting goals in a different way to the traditional way of doing it. Instead of looking at how you should be setting goals you come from the perspective of “what do you want to do in order to get there?”

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Would you like to have financial freedom in your life, but instead you find that life is a continual struggle to make ends meet, leaving you tired, depressed, and stressed out?

In 2005 after being married for 23 1/2 years my late husband and I seperated. I felt like the bottom had fallen out of my life. Not only did I have to deal with all the emotional issues of being separated, but I had to learn how to build my business and become financially free using internet marketing which was completely out of my comfort zone.

Feeling overwhelmed, all alone, and discouraged, I knew that I had to change my mindset of thinking the old way which would only bring me the same results.

Realising that creating anything is an inside game my first step was to change the internal environment if I was to see my external world change. My outer world was a direct reflection of what was going on internally. If I did the internal changes, abundance and prosperity, wealth and happiness would almost seem effortless.

I took baby steps every day to change my beliefs and bit by bit shifts started to take place and then whoosh! It felt like Niagara Falls was bringing me a flood of astounding results.
Here are 5 insightful essential keys that you can use to transform your life to create financial freedom, as it did mine.

1. Beliefs. Take a look at your conditioned beliefs and patterns that you hold about money. This will bring to the surface your awareness of what is causing the blocks to your financial freedom.

2. The Don’t Wants. Make a list of all the things that you don’t want in the area of wealth and happiness, abundance and prosperity. When you know what you don’t want you will become very clear about what you want.

3. The Wants. Now make a list of all the things that you do want in those same areas of wealth and happiness, abundance and prosperity. Just look at your don’t want list which is the opposite of what you do want. The attention you give to the thoughts of what you want and of what you can have will produce good feelings and attract them to you.

Your intention is the WHY you want your desires, so ask yourself why you want them. What do you want to experience? Freedom, peace of mind, excitement and fun?

4. Managing Your Energy. Recognize and shift the emotions and feelings that are not serving you. This is how you raise your vibrational frequency which raises your energy field and powerfully influences what you are attracting to yourselves. You are then able to see the possibilities and the solutions more easily.

5. Your Relationship With Money. You have an energetic relationship around everything - yourself, people, and your business. You have a relationship with money whether you realize what it is or not. What is your current relationship with money? List all the feelings and qualities that you want to experience just like you would want it to be if money were a person.

When you can acknowledge and align with this energy, you can make the necessary shifts to attract and allow abundance and prosperity into your life.

Bonus Tip: I wonder what would happen if you worked on just one key and made a slight shift and then each additional shift was like taking a million baby steps to get you to your dream and your goal.

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It is easy for us to focus on the external events and circumstances that are taking place around us which appear to be real, and allow them to affect us in a negative way. It therefore becomes imperative that we remember to get back to some basic principles which will get us back on track.

We often forget that it is not the external events or circumstances that are not to our liking that are affecting us, but our choice to keep our focus and attention on them that gives them the power to affect us. In other words we allow ourselves to be affected by them.

Quantum physics says that there is no phenomenon until it is observed. This effect is known as the ‘Observer Effect’. The implications of the ‘Observer Effect’ are profound because, if true, it means that before anything can manifest in the physical universe it must first be observed.

What is it that you are continually observing and giving your attention to? Are you focusing on the things that you don’t want?  What do you do when things get tough, or when you are challenged in a situation?

You have only two choices. Do you react? Do you get angry, yell, scream, complain, or blame yourself or others? Reacting only draws in more of the undesired results that you are reacting to.

The better and more productive choice is to respond to the situation by learning to get quiet and allowing the Source of love, knowledge and wisdom to communicate to you in that silence. Seek for a deeper understanding of who you truly are and your worth.

What are the internal changes that you need to make that will bring about those external circumstances that you wish for into being? What answers are you seeking? What results do you desire?

This inner wisdom and everything that you need has already been given to you, is within you and is there for the asking. You need only to discover that which is yours already. What are you attracting?

If you do not like what you have manifested, the first step is to accept the fact that the results you are experiencing are your responsibility. Regardless of what you are currently experiencing, by make the necessary inner changes first, the outer circumstances that you are experiencing in your life will change in an exciting and powerful way.

Shift your focus from what is taking place on the outside, what is, and what you don’t want, and get clear on what you really want and focus on those things. Whatsoever is good, lovely and true, think on those things.

The things that are showing up in your life are the scripts and movies that you have played through your inner dialogue, over the past weeks, months and years. If you want to get a different result you will have to change the script.

If your predominant thoughts are on lack and limitations, you will experience exactly what you have been imagining, which in this case will be lack and limitations. If instead you consistently imagine, visualize the desired outcome that you wish to manifest in your life, the law of sowing and reaping will go into effect and those things you’ve desired will be made apparent in your life.

Cultivate an understanding of how to change the internal methods that are creating the external results that you are currently experiencing. Make the internal shift and you will attract to you the desired outcome that you desire in your life.

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We have opinions and beliefs about everything, about ourselves, our capabilities and success, the expectation we may have about our children, beliefs about people and whether we can trust them or not. We have beliefs about the current situation in the world, and what we believe will happen.

All these beliefs influence the decisions we make in our lives and the subsequent actions that we take produce our reality. What we perceive reality to be is a direct representation of what we believe to be true.

Much of the time we are not even conscious of what we believe. We have accepted them to be the truth because we have perceived them to be so. However they are shaping and dictating our lives. We tend to believe that these beliefs will disappear with time. On the contrary, if these beliefs are not changed they will generate those experiences that do not serve us.

We know that these limiting beliefs need to be cleared and new beliefs installed, but do we know how to do this effectively? Do we even know what our beliefs are? Are they our beliefs or do they belong to someone else?

Can we discern between a fact and an opinion?  We have all been given an internal guidance that we can trust and rely upon. Over time however our internal guidance may have been perverted by the opinions and experiences that we’ve had about ourselves, others and the world at large.  The beliefs that we hold especially about ourselves can keep us in a prison by limiting us from reaching our highest potential.

If you are experiencing limitation, struggle or hardship anywhere, in the area of relationships, money, your career, health, etc, you’ll find a dis-serving belief there that needs to be cleared.

Because there were no English speaking schools in the country that my parents lived in I was sent at great expense to a boarding school for a better education before I was six years of age.

Although my siblings and I were well provided for, I collected a set of beliefs that said to get ahead one had to work hard, that money was hard to come by, that hardship and struggle was normal. What I experienced in these formative years shaped the core of my self image.

Most of these beliefs were held at a subconscious level and it wasn’t until I became aware of them that I consciously chose to change them. I realized that regardless of what the problem was, at its heart was often an underlying belief that wasn’t serving me. Until I discovered the core of the problem nothing of consequence would change.

I was fortunate enough to discover an amazing cutting edge step by step process to experience freedom from limitations, which I now teach. The EIP (Eliminating Interference Patterns) process will:

1. Identify the beliefs that are creating your reality in the area of finances, relationships, health, career, and spirituality.

2. Show you how to clear those beliefs that are not serving you.

3. Replace the old beliefs for new ones that will support your goals.

4. Permit the new beliefs to easily accomplish the goals in your life.

Your beliefs are the blueprints and the building blocks of your reality. They are the filters through which you see the world. If you can identify and change the beliefs that hold you back, then your world becomes filled with unlimited possibilities. Change them and you can change your world. The choice is yours.

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